Of late I’ve exchanged Comments with blogging friends who have said that they actually prefer to receive genuine opinions rather than well-meant but perhaps not entirely sincere praise.
( You can tell immediately that they are referring to my Comments, can’t you?! :-\ )
The thing is this, it seems to me: what’s the point of writing something fulsome if you don’t truly think the post worth it? Why add your opinion to those of others being nice when that’s not the effect some post generates upon your sensibilities?
We can ‘like’ and leave, and I do that, too … mostly when I have posts from everyone I follow waiting to be looked at in my Inbox. Thank all the gods you’re not like me! – imagine if you all posted every day !!!
We can ‘like’ and also say something when the post gives rise to it – and I do that more often than not. Most of the time I find I’ve said something that has little to do with the post’s raison d’être – like, I just wrote under a post from my mate Terri, who’d found something delightful on the ground, “is dem yore shoes?”. Now, this would infuriate many people, who would want to send me back a bomb along the lines of THAT IS NOT THE POINT, YOU STUPID WOMAN!!! Happily for me, my blogging friends know me pretty well by now, and have learned to roll their eyes, shrug their shoulders and respond without setting their computers on fire. [grin]
And when bloggers actually ask for an opinion … well, they’re taking a risk. At least, I hope they are! – by which I mean that I hope they really do want responses that are honest, rather than merely looking to be praised. I can say that those I follow who have sought opinions and been given mine, inter alia, are without exception people who seek real feedback. Poor them – they get it, from me. But so far no-one has put out a contract on me (although I s’pose it’s possible that my skulking down here has some relevance to that).
I also realize that there are readers|followers who drop by one’s site, look, and leave without doing anything at all. There must be, to explain those stats. And, as well, why on earth would a person ‘follow’ a blog when that person doesn’t have one of his/her own, if not to take the occasional gink at it?
They’re the silent majority, those mute droppers-in-occasionally.
Not very like me …
Addendum: forgive me for doing this so often ! This time I’m so delighted with a Comment about Comments (!) that I simply have to share it with you: