Have to admit it … :\

/ MR

I started reading this article in the NYT because recently I was abandoned with cold deliberation by someone I love greatly. Well, that is … that’s how it seems to me. But maybe – just maybe – there’s no cold deliberation but a temporary surfeit of ME.

RSD, eh …?

ADHD ????? – why not then ? Certainly I have it in spades with regard to reading, as all who know me are aware.

Sighh … If you feel like finding out what this pertickler ancient is like, seems you have only to peruse the linked article. Would it were not so.

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22 thoughts on “Have to admit it … :\”

  1. This rejection says more about the person who ghosted you than it says about you. Trite words but this is truth!!

    Social rejection is perhaps the worst emotional pain as it speaks to our primitive need for belonging to the tribe. Without it we are stuffed. But that is just in an evolutionary sense.

    Hold your head high. You don’t need this person. The time for her to need you wasn’t happening right now.

    Hugs…

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  2. I’m really sorry to hear this MR. Being “dropped” by someone is truly painful but as Forestwood says it does say more about them than about you. I was interested in some of the techniques for coping in that article. Does that last one work? Do you know they intend it the way you think?

    I could say all sorts of reassuring things but I’m sure you know them. They don’t change the pain. But I hope you know that we all have this happen, but we also have people who hang around? Can you focus on those?

    xxx

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  3. Oh I’m so sorry to hear that. Hearts on sleeves are awfully vulnerable, I know. But they also make you more open and aware of all the goodness that’s out there. (Me!) Seriously, consider yourself hugged from 9,000 miles away.

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  4. I hope u don’t think it’s me🥹 I’m in Copenhagen doing a 23 day bus tour thru Scandinavia – and I’m already exhausted 😖

    lots of love M-R xxx

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    • No, my darling Goanna, never: rather than I am to blame in your case from not being in contact for so long.
      I’m talking here about the erstwhile dear person you know about.
      I’ve never been ghosted before, not in my whole life, and this has rocked me to my core; because I believe he has only tolerated me for all these years, rather than been my friend.

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  5. M-R, I’m sorry that this friendship ended, but don’t blame yourself. It takes two to tango, right? A friend of mine for almost 40 years ghosted me at the end of 2016. No return phone calls, no letters, nothing. I wondered why for many years what happened as our last conversation was a good one. Then last year, I ran into another good friend of hers and she shared that this person did the same thing to her, except she accused this other friend of stealing something out of her house (preposterous!). There’s more to this story, including this friend’s history and personality, but the revelation that I was not the only one at the end of her odd behavior has given me some peace. In saying all of this, I hope you understand that your friend had a hand in this as well and it can’t possibly be all about you. You didn’t give up on your friend, he gave up on you.

    Anyhow, life is too short to be embroiled in crappy relationships, so embrace the friends and family you do have (and that cat of yours), and live life to the fullest. Sending hugs and love! ❤

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    • That’s a warm and a very thoughtful response, M-J – for which I thank you most sincerely.

      And yes, that final sentence of yours is key: I had turned it into just such a thing by my insistence on trying to make it what I wanted. Sighhh … Love to say a hard lesson learned, but know myself too well. 😦

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Go on - you can say it. :)